马尔科姆与玛丽

「even after the hurt

the loss

the pain

the breaking

your body is still

the only one

i want to be undressed under」

“I'm not lugging my balls around this house bragging about the places they’ve been. I dont need to know the details. I dont need to know the moves and steps and the places that brought you to my doorstep. You’re here. And i loved you unconditionally. Why? Because i value mystery. The unknown. It’s what supports the tension of a relationship and forces us to be the best version of ourselves.

The what-if factor. What if there’s someone who loved him better? Who’s smarter, nicer. Woke him up everyday with breakfast and a blowjob. What if I’m not the best girlfriend he’s ever had? What if he dreams someone else? Better conversations, a girl with hips and an actual ass instead of this string bean body? So that every single day when i get up, and i talked to you, and i wear this fancy fucking dress, and i hold your hand. i’m trying to be the best girlfriend you have ever had.

So when you tell me that who I’m against is Kiki from St. Louis, in a heart-shaped bathtub, it makes me give a lot less of a fuck.

The reason you don’t get jealous is because you dont value that mystery, do you? It’s inconceivable to you that there’s anybody on this planet that is more interesting than you are. Your lack of curiosity is merely an extension of your narcissism, your megalomania, your egotistical view of the world. As a result of never doubting yourself, you never stopped to ask yourself, “how can i be a better partner?”

You are good. You are set. You yelling at me in a bathtub about how you’re gonna snap me like a twig, is the best and the worst of who you will be in this relationship. And that’s why you forgot to thank me in the speech.”

今年以来第二次为一部爱情片（婚姻片）些影评，前一部是《婚姻故事》。刚开始认为剧情内容的素材很稀少才决定下载观影。看了第一幕（可以看做是一部话剧）就被吸引，傻傻坐在银幕前看两口子吵架吵了一个多小时——获奖感言少了感谢老婆的后果，哈哈。一攻一守，反攻反杀，我们国人夫妻基本上是不会上演如此好戏的，暂且不去评论西方演艺圈混乱的生活（都差不多），就看他们沟通的方式和角度，足以惊诧和感慨。一部好戏，黑白片又衬托了一种不现实感和纯粹感，最后显示名字：malcolm and marie，我理解为男人和女人，同样M开头，极具男女特征。

I like it. From a movie's standpoint, it reminds me a lot of Marriage Story. I love the overall delivery, despite the unrealness of some taxing tirades (they don't seem like the way a real couple would argue - no one would do such a long monologue without being interrupted, but again, what do I know lol). I also think despite Zendaya's top-notch performance on the white fur carpet, when a drop of tear fell from her eye, that part was quite unnecessary - she would have let out that difficult question way earlier in the argument because it stood SO CENTRAL in the whole thing. Her performance is so natural and *authentic* throughout the whole movie, we all felt heart-broken and unstable just as she did. I especially like the part when she wanted to express her twisted feelings by playing Dionne Warwick's "Get Rid of Him" to Malcolm. That was so awkward and cute and makes my tummy warm.

I blame my dislike of the 30 times of "thank you" speech on Sam Levinson, not her. That was poorly written. But in that mawkish speech, I liked these lines:

Your lack of curiosity is merely an extension of your narcissism, your megalomania, your egotistical view of the world. As a result of never doubting yourself, you never stopped to ask yourself, 'How can I be a better partner?' ... The man I'm looking at right now is as good as he's gonna get.

John David Washington always looks very pissed to me, his piercing eyes make every glance he gives condescending, almost denigrating. ughhh after watching his Tenet and this, I still can't make my mind up as to whether he is a good actor.

Also the cinematography of the movie must be one of my favorite of all times. The perfect black-and-white, perfect degree of grains, those long shots, the clever deft use of mirrors, and music - all played by the characters themselves on their own phones! So fun.

Sadly this is one of those movies that you feel so strong of the presence of the director/screenwriter himself that you lose the real point of the movie. Overall I like it, but I won't watch it again because some of the tirades are very stomach-twisting. The most valuable/salable takeaway/lesson learned about black movies (which is what sparked 50% of the arguments): "white critics approaching black art through the lens of importance rather than black art being important in of itself". However, this message has been undercut by the megalomania of the director himself.

The best film ever. Yeah I know that comment can be controversial. But calling it a TRUE modern film is definitely good. 是真的应该看的“婚姻故事” 但要是就这么讲它，真的算是侮辱了 是，真正的，带着我们现在已经有的思考，做出的something new 关于艺术家和他的“muse” 关于异性恋关系中的不平衡性别权力关系 关于电影制作 It's everything And it tackled everything (it can) "muse”真的开口说话了 且正面直接地、优秀地表达了 这部电影可以和 《如何抑止女性写作》 & 每一个艺术里的被只当做muse对待的女性故事，完美联动

Calling it the best picture ever is because:它有做到把我们这个时代真的在探讨的东西表达出来，它没有被局限在传统的only父权制思维里

Even more beautiful thing is that

这部片子的制作，是真正的：独立——由剧组人员出主意出资制作&合作——每个参与制作的人都在真的塑造这部电影

&that's some true feminist, queer, anti power oppression, aka MODERN move

碎嘴子的恋爱hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh，他们这段吵架的内容很容易让我想起来，武林外传中小郭和秀才因为20两如何分配而导致的吵架。非常好奇，那个奶酪通心粉好不好吃？ 爱情似乎走到了一个取舍关系的地步。欢愉过后，突然归于寂静。一个是开始崭露头角的导演，一个是背后付出但放弃了自己事业的吸毒小演员。有一些突如其来的举动，都会成为下一次争吵额的争端。 他们房子的场域好像一个角斗场，两个人吵架的时候不停的踱步，相互试探。 女生觉得，他把很多个女人的的纪录片变成了一个原创文艺片。 两个人迫使自己冷静的样子，女生卸妆，去掉束缚，男生去野外自言自语对空气拳打脚踢，很有意思，动静的对比。 很有意思的点就是，双方的攻守不停的换，每次通过诉说都能发现: 我看到的不是全部。感情这种东西私有性很强，你拍的电影，我很容易把自己代入女主角，觉得她的原型就是我，所以就会忽略在我之前是不是你有类似的经历。 他们把彼此的人性看得太透彻了，以至于陷入了自己的桎梏中。但是这种东西到底是不是因为自私不好说… 男人似乎认为自己是女孩的救世主。所以总是不留余地的抨击别人。但是却没有忘了感谢。 他俩的台词好棒啊。